22. How to Stop Abandoning Yourself
Who do you get to become when you no longer have to ask permission to be yourself?
This episode takes the scenic route through Halloween nostalgia, Spice Girls, Sailor Moon, and a few personal ghost stories—including a chatty party guest named Edward and a resident “Grandpa” who apparently has opinions about my television choices. Somewhere between the ghosts and the costumes, we get into what it means to start enjoying life again after spending so long just trying to survive it.
I share how I’m rediscovering play, friendship, and self-expression while rebuilding my life—and the question I’m using to make more honest choices: “How would I feel about this if I were not lying to myself?”
From relationships to job opportunities, we explore the subtle ways we talk ourselves into things we already know feel wrong, the discomfort of honoring our own answers, and why being able to tolerate something doesn’t mean we have to choose it.
A little spooky, a little spicy, and a conversation about becoming more yourself—and finding people who celebrate you for it.
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